Child...Going Once, Going Twice, SOLD?!

Using your child for leverage....come on now?!

This is definitely and ode to those triflent mothers and fathers who exist for the sole purpose of exploiting their children for their own personal or emotional gain. Just when you think people in the world today couldn't stoop any lower...no really...we didn't think that did we; they shock you with their endless realm of stupidity and selfishness. Forget the whole master plan of having a child to love him/her and raise them in the way they should go! For some people, kids are their next best shot at collateral. Well, we definitely see you guys and please understand your triflentness is dually noted.

Mothers and fathers alike put on this flaky mask of parental excellence when in the lime light and after the curtains drop their kids become the next poker chip. My heart sincerely goes out to the fathers and mothers who are unfortunate enough to have a insignificant other who does this and has to deal with it until the child reaches adulthood. The methods range from gold digging to using the poor kid to keep the other person single. We all know how new dates just love baby momma or baby daddy drama...NOT! I have seen women and men...yes, as strange as it sounds...MEN, withhold visitation until they get exactly what they want. It really breaks your heart to know that sometimes all they want is the other mother or father to be miserable for as long as they can make them. They assume the poor kids are too young to realize what is going on, but the idiots just don't know their too dumb to realize the kids are usually smarter than them. That means the little genius is just filled with anguish over what is going on until they reach the age of rebellion, violence, or other means of lashing out.

If you are one of those parents, my only advice is, GROW UP AND HAVE A HYSTERECTOMY OR VASECTOMY! You have absolutely no business with a child. You don't even need a puppy. You need something more along the lines of therapy. Kids are extensions of self, and I know you don't treat yourself like that, and if you do...again I say THERAPY. If you are friends of people like this, stop saying you are trying to mind your own business and get the nuts to save a child. Mental abuse like this goes deeper than physical abuse. We all know that some people can break your spirit without putting a hand on you. We need to stop allowing these kids' spirits to be broken and do something. I hope that this message has reached the hearts and minds of everyone who may not know someone like that, who may know someone like that, and most importantly...who may actually be someone like that.

Et tu, Rihanna?

We have heard it all this past week when it comes to Chris Brown and the alleged beating of girlfriend, and R&B diva, Rihanna. It is very hard for most rational people to speak on the topic because it touches a sensitive area that no one wants to speak on; domestic abuse. Well I'm not famous, I'm tired of hearing ignorant people speak on the subject, and I think it's about time society faced the music on domestic abuse. It has just been insane how things have played out for Chris Brown. I hope Rihanna is ok, but snapping pictures of famous people does not change what goes on in society or in their case, what is covered up in society.

When it comes down to African American culture today, there are different definitions of domestic abuse in a relationship. I don't know what people have been telling paparazzi, but there are some females that can and will kick a man's ass if he just sits there and let's it happen. Usually if he sits there and takes it or runs away the respect is out the window from that point. That is just a sad fact about a majority African American females being raised in today's society. There are just some myths that need to be cleared up and one of them is that ALL MEN CAN FIGHT. With the way things have changed in society, African Americans have a slightly different view about hitting females. Most African American men would not beat a girl to death, but they would definitely slap the hell out of them or shake them up a bit to get their point across.

An example of my point came while watching Tyler Perry's recent film, "A Family that Prey's." After one of the male characters found out his wife had been cheating on him, the child he had raised was not his, and she continued to bad mouth him and build on the anger...he slapped her over the counter! The weird thing was that no gasps of outrage came from the audience; however, applause rang throughout the theater. I think people would find it surprising if they polled how many people think women should get whacked when they deserve it. I know it sounds bad, but I think some women do deserve it and hide behind the old act of chivary by unknowing men.

No one is sure of what happened between Chris and Rihanna, but the real truth is that there is a slight posibility that she may have deserved to get the beat down she received. There were rumors that she gave Chris herpes. Many people are defending Rihanna by saying Chris should have worn a condom. Come on people! Rihanna and Chris have been dating for a while. Chris Brown looks like the gullible type that would be with a girl for a long time and trust her eventually and stop using a condom. What is wrong with people to think it is something wrong with that?! What happened to the age of sexual responsibility that felt all partners should be totally honest with one another?! It's like we fix one problem by providing condoms and people think that relinquishes them from common decency and morality. That is one reason we have totally innocent married people who were tested before marriage ending up with AIDS. This is not a prick on the finger! STD's are serious, and a person that treats something that could possibly be life threatening with little regard, might need to have their ass kicked! If that rumor has any truth to it, I will be the first to bite any bullets and say she deserved to get beat up. Any other female would have known not to play those types of games in fear of what actually did happen. Rihanna must have forgotten or thought fame made her exempt. You can not provoke these men and think chivalry will save you. If you cannot be 100% faithful and honest with your partner, it is in your best interest to move on or be smart and not flaunt it in his face after the fact.

I just hope Chris and Rihanna are given the opportunity to sort things out for themselves. Relationships are hard and fame doesn't make it any easier. They love each other and from what friends say, an occasional screaming match or fight is not out of the ordinary for them...and guess what...neither is it for maybe 90% of people who are blabbing at the mouth about how outraged they are. When you get pass the dream world, people who love you might actually beat the crap out of you sometime if you push it that far. I guess love standing the test of time and time healing all wounds compliment one another when it comes to relationships. Love may beat the crap out of you mentally and sometimes physically, buy if it is real love, that same person puts in the time to heal those wounds. I hope we all step back a while and let Chris and Rihanna figure out if they have the love and the time.

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