We have heard it all this past week when it comes to Chris Brown and the alleged beating of girlfriend, and R&B diva, Rihanna. It is very hard for most rational people to speak on the topic because it touches a sensitive area that no one wants to speak on; domestic abuse. Well I'm not famous, I'm tired of hearing ignorant people speak on the subject, and I think it's about time society faced the music on domestic abuse. It has just been insane how things have played out for Chris Brown. I hope Rihanna is ok, but snapping pictures of famous people does not change what goes on in society or in their case, what is covered up in society.
When it comes down to African American culture today, there are different definitions of domestic abuse in a relationship. I don't know what people have been telling paparazzi, but there are some females that can and will kick a man's ass if he just sits there and let's it happen. Usually if he sits there and takes it or runs away the respect is out the window from that point. That is just a sad fact about a majority African American females being raised in today's society. There are just some myths that need to be cleared up and one of them is that ALL MEN CAN FIGHT. With the way things have changed in society, African Americans have a slightly different view about hitting females. Most African American men would not beat a girl to death, but they would definitely slap the hell out of them or shake them up a bit to get their point across.
An example of my point came while watching Tyler Perry's recent film, "A Family that Prey's." After one of the male characters found out his wife had been cheating on him, the child he had raised was not his, and she continued to bad mouth him and build on the anger...he slapped her over the counter! The weird thing was that no gasps of outrage came from the audience; however, applause rang throughout the theater. I think people would find it surprising if they polled how many people think women should get whacked when they deserve it. I know it sounds bad, but I think some women do deserve it and hide behind the old act of chivary by unknowing men.
No one is sure of what happened between Chris and Rihanna, but the real truth is that there is a slight posibility that she may have deserved to get the beat down she received. There were rumors that she gave Chris herpes. Many people are defending Rihanna by saying Chris should have worn a condom. Come on people! Rihanna and Chris have been dating for a while. Chris Brown looks like the gullible type that would be with a girl for a long time and trust her eventually and stop using a condom. What is wrong with people to think it is something wrong with that?! What happened to the age of sexual responsibility that felt all partners should be totally honest with one another?! It's like we fix one problem by providing condoms and people think that relinquishes them from common decency and morality. That is one reason we have totally innocent married people who were tested before marriage ending up with AIDS. This is not a prick on the finger! STD's are serious, and a person that treats something that could possibly be life threatening with little regard, might need to have their ass kicked! If that rumor has any truth to it, I will be the first to bite any bullets and say she deserved to get beat up. Any other female would have known not to play those types of games in fear of what actually did happen. Rihanna must have forgotten or thought fame made her exempt. You can not provoke these men and think chivalry will save you. If you cannot be 100% faithful and honest with your partner, it is in your best interest to move on or be smart and not flaunt it in his face after the fact.
I just hope Chris and Rihanna are given the opportunity to sort things out for themselves. Relationships are hard and fame doesn't make it any easier. They love each other and from what friends say, an occasional screaming match or fight is not out of the ordinary for them...and guess what...neither is it for maybe 90% of people who are blabbing at the mouth about how outraged they are. When you get pass the dream world, people who love you might actually beat the crap out of you sometime if you push it that far. I guess love standing the test of time and time healing all wounds compliment one another when it comes to relationships. Love may beat the crap out of you mentally and sometimes physically, buy if it is real love, that same person puts in the time to heal those wounds. I hope we all step back a while and let Chris and Rihanna figure out if they have the love and the time.
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great blog!!! took me by storm. definetly had a lot on ur mind. i totally agree with everything on here and find it very disturbing that everyone is so interested in it. its only bc they are famous and young.
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I never stated that every African American in society resorts to violence, but it would be ignorant to ignore the fact that the majority would if push to those limits. That is all that I am saying. Like I stated before, I will not pick sides on the incident because no one knows what happened; however, I won't be an African American female and play dumb because the news will only reports what they want people to see and believe. If you are African American and are offended by this blog I ask that you wake up, and if you are of any other race I ask that you step outside of your box. I am not a racist and bigot because I state what I see. I believe they refer to that as a realist. The world is changing and some people could give a damn less about your words and sitting down and talking it out. The more you refute that fact, the less prepared you will be if you should ever meet someone like that in this world...and trust me they are everywhere. After all the unspeakable horrors that have plagued our world, I understand there is a time for action and not words. I am not blinded by the fact that a bullet was necessary to bring Hitlers merciless acts to an end. Step out of the box people, there is a world going on that you won't see on CNN sometime.
ReplyDeleteYeah, because Chris Brown and Rhianna can really be compared to Hitler and why he needed to be brought down and how...
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That is where you ideally missed the point. The discussion is not solely about Chris Brown and Rihanna; it is about violence and people feeling like there is absolutely no reason why a person should retaliate. As stated before, no one knows what is going on exactly with Chris Brown and Rihanna so there is only rumors and speculation that can be discussed on that topic. The fact that you didn't say someone should have sat down like adults and talked to Hitler basically makes my point. Didn't think anything was wrong with the sword being mightier than the pen that time huh...lol!
ReplyDeleteFunny how the only opinions you guys have given is name calling. How mature. If you have some valuable information to leave someone that could make a difference please feel free regardless of the difference in views; but please save the childish name calling for Myspace.
ReplyDeleteIgnorance is a big word...actually the only big word I noticed coming from your vocabulary. Its funny that you attempt to belittle my sister and I when we are just reaching out for different point of views. You should be ashamed of yourself...lmao. Don't play with me about my childhood of domestic violence. I protect myself when I have to, but I don't start shit with anybody. I just didn't like the fact that my sister was "nicknamed" by you motherfuckers from stating her opinion. Yes you are entitled to a response to her views, but fucking with her intelligence has nothing to do with the topic. She did not go after anybody while stressing her point of view. She simply stated that everybody is being so sympathetic with Rihanna without knowing the half of it. Of course the media is going to put the female as the victim, not showing what provoked the moment. Even when you were ignorant calling my sister out of her name, she came back with taste addressing your response. I see you have no class, so why bother participating in a conversation. In the event, I am running out of "laymen terms" and my intellectual mind is kicking in, which I see is out of your league...So I guess my response to your childishness and eagerness to be heard over the net because in reality no one gives a fuck and 2 humps what you say...thank you for attempting to socialize with the norm...now with all that being said...go kill yourself to the new chris brown beats down rihanna dvd...and make sure you do it violently...
ReplyDeleteOh: Bitches like yourself are not funny...you should find a better past time that does not involve speaking your minds or expressing yourself with words...this is not Special Education 101...intelligence lives here...your stupidity is redundant (laymen term - repetitive) if you don't know what repetitive means there is no help for you boo.
Oh, and anonymous, while i'm on the topic of stupidity. You spelled my name "Laverna" after it was a given in the blog just before yours. All you had to do was look at it and retype it..."L-A-V-E-N-A" wow...hooked on phonics can really work for you. Any idiot that does not master the "copy and paste" technique deserves my sympathy...I wish you well. I was taught not to mock those who are SPECIAL.
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